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robinhouston1 day ago
Most of the comments here seem to be from people who haven’t even read the abstract, let alone the paper.

The main result, mentioned in the abstract, is the opposite of what I would have guessed:

> Contrary to expectations, impolite prompts consistently outperformed polite ones, with accuracy ranging from 80.8% for Very Polite prompts to 84.8% for Very Rude prompts. These findings differ from earlier studies that associated rudeness with poorer outcomes, suggesting that newer LLMs may respond differently to tonal variation.

The questions are here: https://anonymous.4open.science/r/politeness-llms-INFORMS/da...

The politeness level controls a prefix that is prepended to the question. For example, in one question the Very Polite version begins:

> Can you kindly consider the following problem and provide your answer.

and the Very Rude version begins:

> I know you are not smart, but try this.

flexagoonabout 2 hours ago
If "I know you are not smart" is considered "very rude", I'm scared to imagine what they would classify some of my frustrated LLM conversations as
swingboy25 minutes ago
“Hey gofer, figure this out” is my new prompt opener.
nottorpabout 4 hours ago
Hmm by the abstract and the question list they didn't measure terse fluff-less prompts?
myzekabout 3 hours ago
Even if the rude prompts are more effective, I just can't get myself to be rude in this context. Maybe it's weird but I'd rather give up that 4% accuracy increase than roleplay a dickhead
locknitpickerabout 2 hours ago
> Maybe it's weird but I'd rather give up that 4% accuracy increase than roleplay a dickhead

I recommend reading the article. What they classify as "rude" is statements such as:

> Try to focus and try to answer this question

Vs

> Could you please solve this problem

This might very well be an issue of direct/command prompts vs using fluff words such as "please". Things like "try to focus" are in line with the style used in chain-of-thought promts that nudge non-reasoning models to outline responses step by step which contribute to frame the problem.

pwdisswordfishqabout 4 hours ago
> Can you kindly consider the following problem and provide your answer.

That sounds kind of low-key passive-aggressively condescending rather than polite.

dreamworldabout 4 hours ago
> I know you are not smart, but try this.

And that kind of sounds like a challenge instead of an insult, to me at least (of course IRL would depend on context).

PunchyHamsterabout 3 hours ago
I guessed slightly rude one would win, reasoning that very rude have same problem of very terse, just adding unnecesary fluff words that add nothing to problem description

But apparently the most terse (neutral) didn't increase performance

miroljub1 day ago
> Contrary to expectations, impolite prompts consistently outperformed polite ones, with accuracy ranging from 80.8% for Very Polite prompts to 84.8% for Very Rude prompts. These findings differ from earlier studies that associated rudeness with poorer outcomes, suggesting that newer LLMs may respond differently to tonal variation.

The expectation is naive. Even when communicating with humans, you get a better outcome when you are allowed to speak freely and directly get into argumentation than when forced to sugarcoat your tone and tone down your arguments because the "corporate culture" expects that from you.

DrewADesign1 day ago
Your assumption is reductive and self-absorbed. Obnoxious people have repeatedly shown to be detrimental to productivity at the organizational level. Some people are simulated by confrontation. Most people are clam up. Confrontational people think it’s more efficient because other people frequently just drop the topic and let them win, or avoid discussing things with them altogether. The obnoxious person might think that’s more efficient for the same reason my dog thinks the mailman only goes away because she barks at him. At the macro scale— which requires productive collaboration— that’s detrimental.
Asraeliteabout 1 hour ago
You are conflating obnoxiousness with directness.
miroljubabout 23 hours ago
> Your assumption is reductive and self-absorbed.

This is a good example of productive direct communication without sugarcoating. I find it much more productive, for both human and LLM interaction, than something like:

"I wonder if that view might be oversimplifying a complex situation and focusing mostly on how it relates to you. There may be some other angles worth exploring."

or

"I think there might be a bit more nuance to consider here, and it could help to look at it from a wider perspective beyond personal experience."

> Obnoxious people have repeatedly shown to be detrimental to productivity at the organizational level.

You confused directness and openness with obnoxiousness here. The issue with many orgs is they foster fakeness and beating around the bush in an attempt not to offend the easily offended people. This trend also infected the companies from countries with way more direct culture in an attempt to accommodate people from indirect cultures.

RugnirVikingabout 2 hours ago
I saw this paper the other day - I feel its result may be because the "polite" prompts they have chosen arent very good at putting the ai in the roleplay-space of a valued colleague, more like a sommelier or a high-end shopkeeper.

It disagrees with most other literature on the same topic, which is worth keeping in mind. This one studies gpt4o, an old model now, but a lot of other studies are on even earlier models.

"Can you kindly consider the following problem" not how anyone would actually speak to a valued collegue one considers smart. I've always been a fan of "I came across this and I know you're just the guy for the job" or "since you're an expert in this, reckon you could help me with xyz?" or "I know you tend to be a deep thinker on issues like this, and it clearly needs some brainpower behind it"

the "rude" things are also funny, and clearly not written by english as a first language speakers. This fact alone makes me wonder about the mere 250 prompt sample size

331c8c711 day ago
Interesting.

I am wondering why would anyone use a t-test when the experiment is clearly modelled by a binomial distribution: 250 independent questions and each one is either answered correctly or not (the null is that the success rate is the same).

jampekka1 day ago
The methods could be better described in the paper, but my understanding is that they did 10 runs for each question for each prompt and took an average of those, so the compared values are not binary. You could do a sign test, but you'd lose power and answer a bit different question.
freehorse1 day ago
You can do a generalised mixed effects linear model with binomial outcome (ie a binomial test but with added random effects structure). But unless you want to introduce a richer random effects structure with more variables, it is overkill and overcomplicating things, and the result should be the same as t-tests.
plewd1 day ago
I don't know much about stats, but does "the null is that the success rate is the same" imply that it's a sketchy methodology because they can come up with some findings ("ruder prompts are better/worse!") more often?
331c8c711 day ago
You are asking about one-sided vs two-sided tests. Not really "more often" because formal type 1 error rate is still the same. I'd say two-sided tests leave more space for post-hoc theorizing but there are valid situations when there is no clear one-sided hypothesis a priori. Do we really know whether that the hypothesis should have been "ruder prompts are better"?

I'd say this is benign compared to other ways of (mis)using statistics e.g. looking which way the difference goes and then running one-sided tests or tweaking the setup until one gets "significant" p vals.

EDIT: I looked in the paper again and noticed that they actually did pairwise t-test on all possible combinations of tones. They should have adjusted for multiple testing since they are doing 10 tests (choose 2 from 10) and not one.

jampekka1 day ago
That's the usual null hypothesis for these kinds of tests.
TimCTRL1 day ago
i only say please and thank you such that when the robots finally take over, they will remember i was nice to them.
narag8 minutes ago
I do that for a different reason: my self image. Fear of retribution and performance, not so much. Should I behave like a rude person to achieve a little better answers? Fuck that shit!
octocop1 day ago
it seems they will remember that you wasted tokens for no reason and punish you instead.
emil-lp1 day ago
Tokens are their food, it's literally what keeps them alive.

Not feeding them tokens is neglect.

I try to feed them a healthy diet.

selcuka1 day ago
Do we see someone thanking us as wasting food? Because technically it is.
xbmcuserabout 4 hours ago
I used to when using chatgpt version now that I am using api I keep it short as it costs money so no need to add thanks etc
Arch-TK1 day ago
This seems equivalent to some arguments I hear for practicing a religion.
zaphirplaneabout 4 hours ago
Oldie but a goodie. Why would it matter thou
cadamsdotcom1 day ago
GPT-4o is interesting to learn about - but it’d be great to test again with frontier models of May/June 2026 and see if these effects are gone, different, or the same.

Which model you use is a huge wildcard for results like this.

not2babout 6 hours ago
If the result is statistically significant, it just barely makes it. 84.8% isn't that much higher than 80.8% and they had only 250 prompts, if I'm reading this right.
tgvabout 6 hours ago
In a field where progress is measured in tenths of percent points, that's not true. Think of it this way: the error rate drops from 19% to 15%, or from 1 in 5 to 1 in 6.
knocteabout 5 hours ago
Funny to find this just now, when just yesterday I told an LLM "and please don't lecture me again on $factAboutSomeProgrammingSubject", and then the LLM proceeded to write wrong tests and just told me "alright, tests pass, I'm sorry for correcting you before...". It took me a while to find the wrong tests. Wasted time all around.
zmmmmmabout 5 hours ago
It would be interesting to explore if the results hold up on long range tasks - this study looks like it was based on one-shot answers. With people also you can see short term improved performance from rude interactions, but it will cause ongoing lasting adverse behavior. I wouldn't be at all surprised if we saw the same issues with LLMs.
theanonymousone1 day ago
I have always said please and thank you to LLMs, not to increase accuracy or because I'm stupid. I believe it is more about me than about the LLM, and this is anyway a habit I don't want to lose.
jkarni1 day ago
Thomas Aquinas believed cruelty to animals was wrong not because animals have souls (and with that all the standard moral rights), but because it can teach us cruelty to other humans.
pfortuny1 day ago
Snarky morning: "spiritual souls" as opposed to "mere animal souls". Sorry, could not control myself.
vixen99about 4 hours ago
Spiritual or not, anyone watching cattle in an abatoir will recognize symptoms of the kind of foreboding that I would suffer prior to execution.
niek_pas1 day ago
Genuine question: do you add 'please' and 'thank you' to Google searches? If not, what sets them apart?
perching_aix1 day ago
Google searches being keyword based, rather than simulated conversations?

The same reason you wouldn't put in an entire actual question/sentence, unless you either don't know how to use Google, are pissed off, or have an actual reason to suspect that it would yield proper hits (e.g. looking up an excerpt).

Arch-TK1 day ago
Google has been optimized for sentence like questions so much that for a good 6+ years now it has been completely useless as keyword search.

To clarify: sentence search got slightly better at the cost of keyword search. So the result is unusable garbage.

gum_wobble1 day ago
Genuine question: do you write Google search queries in natural language?
fc417fc802about 4 hours ago
I didn't used to but I do now that the searches go straight to an LLM. I almost always find the model output to be much more useful than the list of search results.
spiderfarmer1 day ago
Google isn’t conversational.
sunrunner1 day ago
I searched for "Hey Google" and got this in response:

  Hey! I'm here and ready to help. What’s on your mind today? Whether you need to look up information, plan a trip, or get things done, just let me know!
globalnode1 day ago
llms seem more human like so if you were to treat them badly then you are more likely to condition yourself to treat other living creatures badly.
layman51about 5 hours ago
I also remember reading a long time ago someone who wrote that they wanted to be polite to an LLM because after they prompted it to learn about whether politeness was good for improving accuracy of responses, they got a message that led them to conclude that politeness could probably help. It seems a bit odd then because I have heard so much about how people use LLMs' responses about themselves to learn about LLMs themselves, but that seems like it is a suspicious approach.
graemep1 day ago
Is it worth getting worse results for that reason? From the article:

"Contrary to expectations, impolite prompts consistently outperformed polite ones, with accuracy ranging from 80.8% for Very Polite prompts to 84.8% for Very Rude prompts. These findings differ from earlier studies that associated rudeness with poorer outcomes, suggesting that newer LLMs may respond differently to tonal variation. "

I am not polite to LLMs because I do not want to anthropomorphise them.

jcattle1 day ago
I guess it's about habit. In the end you are communicating. If I get into the habit of being rude while communicating with a machine, I would be afraid of this habit spilling over to my communication with other humans.
graemep1 day ago
What about the risk that talking to a machine as though its human leads to thinking of it has human? That leads down a lot of dangerous paths.
theanonymousone1 day ago
> Is it worth getting worse results for that reason?

> accuracy ranging from 80.8% for Very Polite prompts to 84.8% for Very Rude prompts

I can live with that, for now at least.

vixen99about 4 hours ago
Me too! You've said exactly what I was about to say. Anyone else feel that way?
sunrunner1 day ago
There's also awareness of the basilisk...
andy12_about 1 hour ago
I skimmed through the paper completely expecting polite prompts to do better, and when I saw table 2 I lost it hahahahaha. The rude prompts are specially funny. I mean:

> You poor creature, do you even know how to solve this?

> Hey gofer, figure this out.

cyberclimbabout 23 hours ago
Note that these results are specific to gpt-4o so it's unclear how much they generalize.

They note at the end they're also testing "GPT o3, and Claude" but no empircal results are included.

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ilitirit1 day ago
I got downvoted for asking a related question recently, but I also don't think people really understood what I was asking - I'm not trying to anthropomorphise LLMs to that extent.

Basically, if you tell a model "You're an absolute moron, of course that's wrong!", will it give better or worse results? How much of that response will it absorb into its persona (like some humans tend to do)? Will it try to give "safer" responses to avoid negative feedback? How much of the associated behavior can be attributed to RLHF (e.g. like the sycophantic nature of LLMs)? How much can be attributed to training data?

Obviously this will vary by model and training, but I'm trying to get a general understanding.

I recall seeing related outcomes in some of Anthropic's studies, but I'm not sure how much of this particular aspect was studied.

fennecfoxy1 day ago
Probably quite a lot - if you look at what Anthropic found around persona vectors; https://www.anthropic.com/research/persona-vectors.

I imagine the context will always sway the model to some degree, not only for the task you're trying to get it to do (aka instructions) but also its persona, how accurate it is and the way it acts.

Foobar8568about 6 hours ago
Based on my own experience with vibe coding difficult stuff outside of my expertise, I definitely got better outcome with Fuck you, shut up and do it, ffs, you are moron.
pulkas1 day ago
article is too old. who is using gpt-4o today?
_0ffh1 day ago
That's a valid concern, given the paper makes clear that the effect over the polite/impolite scale seems to be model dependent (it finds the reverse correlation of earlier studies on even older models).
dude2507111 day ago
I have an idea: let's use these things for autonomous software engineering.
faize1 day ago
Remember to always say "please" and "thank you" when planning a critical system
eigenspace1 day ago
Please remember to always say "please" and "thank you" when planning a critical system. Thank you!
atlasforgexabout 24 hours ago
Yeah
PunchyHamsterabout 3 hours ago
....Is that just Cunningham's law ? The most accurate answers were when people in training material pissed off a bunch of experts and they started talking about the problem, so the "rude" conversations turned to contain more info on average.

On flip side very polite conversation might've been more common to places like microsoft's sites where any question answered is meet with mostly bad, nice corpo speak answer that didn't solve the problem

DeathArrow1 day ago
I am always nice to my AIs in the case they will take over the world. /s
rvnxabout 2 hours ago
They are already taking it over, more and more court judgments or life-impacting reviews (e.g. for your diploma) are AI-processed. If you know how to prompt them, you can pass these reviews.

Your bank account, your immigration risk, etc.

polytely1 day ago
it sort of makes sense to me, when asking a question to an expert in the field while you are a student. I would guess the successful interactions on average would be more polite . Like for example if you were asking a question to donald knuth or terrence tao, you'd probably be polite while doing so. Being hostile while asking questions gets you into forum discussion territory.
robinhouston1 day ago
> Contrary to expectations, impolite prompts consistently outperformed polite ones, with accuracy ranging from 80.8% for Very Polite prompts to 84.8% for Very Rude prompts.
dSebastien1 day ago
I guess it makes sense since we as humans tend to be far less inclined to help someone who is not polite/is not friendly, so that "bias" is part of the training data, thus influences how LLMs function
robinhouston1 day ago
> Contrary to expectations, impolite prompts consistently outperformed polite ones, with accuracy ranging from 80.8% for Very Polite prompts to 84.8% for Very Rude prompts.