Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms
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rrationalist about 4 hours ago 121 comments
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And for any mothers here, happy Mother's Day.
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Please go do it on my behalf, while it’s possible.
If you need someone to talk to I’m here.
So, yeah. Call while you can.
It’s the 31st of May
Better luck next year... I guess?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday
Now I think it's really significant and important to have an official day dedicated to recognize all the moms out there.
Happy mother's day to all the moms out there. And all the guys that made them moms :)
P. J. O'Rourke
I take his quote to mean that motherhood is more difficult than fatherhood, especially back in the time he was active. The quote should, I feel, not be observed as a factual statement, but rather in the vein of his politically based humor. Largely, it was a simpler time.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/P._J._O%27Rourke
I've already dealt with the fact that I will not get my mom back.
Maybe that doesn’t matter, but it’s nice to have on a weekend.
Maybe I’m missing what you mean?
(I personally think it's okay to be amused, even if it's thanks to dead people. I don't think any mother would really mind too much.)
[0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day#Dates_around_th...
Mother’s Day is different from country to country (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day)
8 March was an entirely different animal...
My partner frequently brags that she’s the only of her friends and coworkers, in 10+ years, who has ever gotten flowers for women’s day. Meanwhile even Uber drivers have wished her a happy women’s day in various heavy foreign accents.
Here[0] is a list of many holidays that are ignored more than international women’s day.
Happy International Day of Plant Health to you!
0: https://www.un.org/en/observances/list-days-weeks
March 8th is for the partners, mother's day is for the wives :)
Just kidding but couldn't resist.
Oh don’t even get me started! Labor Day was specifically set for a different day than May 1st to discourage solidarity with international labor movements. Wouldn’t want people to feel a camaraderie with the communists and socialists abroad
Next year can you please post a day earlier?
:-)
Quick reminder that not all mothers are good people that we must keep in touch with. For people recovering from a rough childhood, here are a couple of resources that may be useful to you:
1. "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" by Gibson.
2. https://old.reddit.com/r/AdultChildren+CPTSD+raisedbynarciss...
Gonna go help my mom again in massaging her legs, Okay shes asking me to help now, bye!
Child marriage is an example, very few will argue that it doesn't make them bad parents for selling their children, but it's completely alright in many cultures, nope, garbage culture.
And what you say about every parents in Asia is utter-nonsense btw and it's not the reality, you clearly don't understand a word of what you are writing.
I will not call her. It benefits neither of us.
You clearly didn't read properly. It's the mom the one who doesn't care about her child. Calling her isn't going to change anything.
Calling might not change anything, but that doesn't mean that change couldn't happen another way.
Maybe there is a time for difficult outreach, but recommending someone to celebrate a person (and one of the most significant people in their life) whose primary emotion is disgust in response to unchosen personal attributes is remarkably insensitive. No need to salt those wounds.
Let's hope things get better for anyone in this circumstance, but IMO it is the parent's job to make an attempt.
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Nobody wants to or tries to be this kind of person, so here is my shout out today to the moms who DID find a way to work through the challenge of accepting a child whose sexuality, spirituality, politics, etc. are different than they hoped for.
Kids don't owe their parents anything.
Can you really consider yourself a good kid if you just let them die in a center? In my eyes, no.
Each person has their own situation so it isn't my place to give specific advice, but each and everyone should pause for a moment on this day, be thankful that they are alive, and consider to do the right thing that they wouldn't regret if they don't do it. Even if you wouldn't call your parents.
People act like I am a douche for this, but at this point I really see three options here. A) I roll my eyes and let her spew her stupid racist bullshit and move on, B) I push back, start an argument, and really upset my mother (whom I do like), or C) drop contact with her. C seems like the least-bad option.
Kids owe their parents nothing. Not a single person on this planet asked to be born. If a parent (or grandparent) does something bad, the onus is not on the child to make things "right".
People act like you have to love your family no matter what, but I think that's pretty naive. If literally anyone I didn't share DNA with said something racist about my wife then no one would give me shit for not talking to them, but suddenly because I'm related to them I just have to let this bullshit slide? Fuck that bullshit.
The days of a young Silicon Valley are long gone.